What can failure offer to me when I just obliterated my final, or the boy I asked out said no, or when a research project is due and I am now just starting and looking through Google for articles and answers on why failure is necessary, especially in a post high school setting, at 1:05 AM? As we are becoming soons-to-be-graduates, what can it do for us in life? While researching this an hour ago, surprisingly, I found that failing could be a positive thing. I might as well end the research here already, but we still need about two more answers to pass. So how do we fail successfully?
In high school: failing to make the basketball team, or to turn in late homework from six months ago, or to being late because your car battery decided to not work the day of rehearsal, we are offered multiple chances to no chance at all. We are allowed the opportunity to succeed once more during those unfortunate, yet evident times. However, in the cold, harsh winters of life, you are forced to be independent. Responsibilities and time-consuming efforts appear for you in order to survive the reality of the real world. Sometimes, too much of it makes you stumble, fall, and maybe break a hip. It will dawn on you that life is tough and that you can fail at almost anything and there are no do-overs. And now you have a broken hip.
But it is not the end for you and your figuratively broken hip. I found that in William Arruda’s Forbes article, “Why Failure Is Essential To Success”, he states that embracing failure allows us to learn that it is not a setback. From applying to a job to playing a sport, those allow us to fail and learn and try again. Failing becomes something you can succeed from because of its power to improve our resilience in trying. But maybe, we haven’t failed enough to realize that. We want to give up as soon as the task at hand seems too hard to overcome. However, limiting ourselves impedes our abilities to make big goals in our lives. If we want to improve our mental and physical well-beings in the future, failing is the start of it all. Maybe, what you fail in high school could be a small lesson to help you progress forward and be better prepared for what life barbarically throws at you.
In J.K. Rowling’s 2008 Harvard commencement speech, she talks about her revelation of failure: "It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default." Influential people such as J.K. Rowling, Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, Steven Spielberg, and more have failed a tremendous amount of times. But they never stopped. Their crowned achievements come from not being afraid to fail. To me, failure is simply a blessing in disguise, no matter how big or small as it lets us analyze our mistakes and be knowledgeable next time if we ever attempt again. It is always a lesson we can use to succeed as it not only defines our ability to keep moving forward, but our reflection of who we are to have the strength to get up and be an improved person everyday.
Go take risks. Fail as you please and do with what you will learn from it. Because without it, you can never understand the joys of risks, redemption, and the beauty of failing successfully.
Kevin DaJay
www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHGqp8lz36c
www.forbes.com/sites/williamarruda/2015/05/14/why-failure-is-essential-to-success/#10e670ae7923
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/15-highly-successful-people-who-failed-their-way-success.html